In the ancient China, these are the ranking of social status. The business men were viewed lowest amongst all yet the men who are educated enjoyed the highest rank.
I have thought about my father's family line, after the great culture revoluation, the family was broken apart. My grand father fled to Indonesia, left behind my grand mom and 5 young kids. The master of the household, my father's grand father, committed suicide to save himself from being insulted and tortured. My grand mom was selling blood to raise her kids, yet she couldn't take the hardship and got remarried (this is still supposed the dark side of our family's history, no one openly talked about it). My father risked his life, swam to Hong Kong and the rest of the family were struggling only to survive. In short, the family crumbled to pieces, my uncles denied they have any links to the family, they disassembled the family house and sold the bricks and woods for money. No one cares to carry the family name and has honor. My father is the only one who cares. strange?
I never had good impression about my father's family memebers, they are dishonest, greedy and ruthless in the name of survival. Yet there is nothing left in my father's family line. I mean, no one feels the obligation to prosper the name, I guess we are not going to do it either after my father passes away.
What is the key of a family's survival? I started to think that my father's grand father was the only one who was well-educated (studied law in Japan in early last century and became the followed Dr. Sun in Chinese revoluation). He didn't build the family value system and network of trust. Suppose a real robust and decent family should have more intensive netowrk of support from relatives/friends and a stronger family bonding induced by a united, centralised family teaching? It is hard to imagine this to happen in families without schooling and education? That's the way to make sure a family line can survive?
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